Want A PHD In Personal Improvement? Well Then Take Internet Marketing Expert Eben Pagan’s Advice And Never Believe ANYTHING Too Much
It’s Lewis a.k.a. Nerd #2.
You know I’m a nerd when it comes to making discoveries that make common sense and make you and I more money, right?
Well Eben Pagan is a nerd as well and this is why he hosted a gargantuan live 25 session event based on the finest strategies known to man when it comes to Learning and Teaching.
While going through this course I’ve come to find out that it is set up to show you something that was never taught to you in the schools that were supposed to teach you stuff.
This course is about teaching you the most valuable skills any human can possess – the skills of how to learn and how to teach.
Why are these skills so vital?
Because in America, where this course was taught, at least 70% of the nation is in what could be considered “Knowledge Work”. This is work you do that depends on a strong intellect rather than a strong body. This is radically different from how things used to be 3-5-10 decades ago.
And the challenge with knowledge work is with getting the data not only into your mind i.e. learning, but then back out of your mind i.e. implementing what you learned.
We have to use words and symbols to get information into our minds and for most people getting the information in and then out is a REALLY tough and ineffective process.
And because most people don’t even realize how shitty they are at learning and teaching, they waste a ton of time and effort and don’t even know they’re wasting a ton of time and effort.
Eben considers Wyatt Woodsmall to be the leading expert on the planet when it comes to psychology, behavior, and learning and he brought him in to co-present with him at this event because he believes that . . .
Learning And Teaching Are The Currency Of The Future
This is where your maximum leverage lies when it comes to learning as an individual, a group or an organization.
The same goes for teaching as an individual, as a group, or as an organization.
The Two Enemies Of Learning
As an individual these are the biggest obstacles in your way.
1st Bastard Of An Obstacle In The Way Of Learning: “I Knew That”
Why is this a disaster waiting to happen on your journey for enlightenment?
Peter Ouspensky wrote a book called, “The Psychology of Man’s Possible Evolution”. Eben highly recommends you read it and the link above takes you to a PDF version of it.
Right out of the gate in this book, Peter says, “The big challenge that I face trying to teach you something is that you won’t believe that what you’re hearing is new.”
You’re going to filter what you’re going to hear through the good, the bad, and the ugly stuff you already have jammed in your head. You interpret it based on the old and think it’s the old shit you’ve already heard before.
The most complex part of this problem is that you need to learn skills that you don’t know . . . but that you think you know.
And when you think you already know something you’re brains shuts down and rejects new information.
This means you’ve got to surrender the idea that you already know and then you’ve got to be truly open to learning the things you think you know but that you don’t.
The practice of staying open as much as possible is what is oh so necessary.
2nd Bastard Of An Obstacle In The Way Of You Learning: “I Disagree”
Why is this such a nasty problem when it comes to you mastering new skills?
Disagreeing has led to some major innovations in society but there’s a level above this that allows for a richer reality.
Entrepreneurs and founders of businesses who solve problems in society are often known as “High Difference People”. This means they see how things are different as opposed to how they’re similar. In the personality types world they’re labeled as mis-matchers. An example of mis-matching behavior saying to someone, “That’s a nice blue shirt,” and them responding, “It’s not reallyblue. It’s more like a turquoise.”
Einstein came along and helped us mis-matchers by bringing to the forefront of consciousness the theory of relativity. Relativity says that all we have is our perspective and all perspectives are partial. We can never see the whole equation. We can never know everything about what’s going on.
This is why 80+% of disagreements are nothing but you closing your mind instead of opening it to learn something new.
Knowledge comes about when someone comes up with an idea, a hypotheses and this leads to them making a case for what they’ve come to believe is true.
Then someone comes along and counters this hypotheses and comes up with the argument for the antithesis and this leads to both parties duking it out with each other trying to prove the other wrong.
These fights, Science vs. Religion for example, are often ugly and looong.
What it usually takes to end this fighting is for someone in a future generation coming along and figuring out how both parties were right and they synthesize the opposing arguments which gives birth to a higher order perspective.
And this starts the whole cycle over again when someone challenges this perspective.
A Mantra To Adopt For Yourself . . .
Seek synthesis. Seek synthesis. Seek synthesis.
Instead of reverting to the default part of yourself that automatically disagrees with people and sets out to make the other person wrong, which is nothing but our childish desire to seek significance, stop and ask yourself, “What part of what they’re saying is new, intriguing, different, a new paradigm shift for me and how can I fuse this with what I’m already attached to, synthesize it and bring value to both of us? How can I elevate both of us?”
“I knew that.” and “I disagree.” are the two prison cells that both your ability to learn and your ability to teach trapped in a juvenile existence.
How Attached To Your Ideas Are You?
Tony Robbins was having a conversation with one of the co-creators of NLP, John Grinder and John told him, “Tony, never believe anything too much because they’ll always be a situation where it’s not true.”
Never believe anything too much because they’ll always be a situation where it’s not true. Never believe anything too much.
Eben’s personal rule of thumb is that he never really wants to believe anything more than 50%.
50% buy in is the max he wants to push himself to because he hasn’t found anything, any concept, idea, or principle that someone else hasn’t come along and shown him how to transcend it and go the next level with a distinction that helped him understand it even better.
There’s always another level. There’s always another side, no matter how thin you slice it. Never believe anything too much.
Have you ever talked to someone and you could feel they had their umbilical cord plugged into their beliefs – they were do or die over their perspective – someone that was righteously indignant?
And this jacks itself up to a level 11 when this person is unleashing the full extent of their emotions in their belief of being right. This is attachment at the highest level.
Never believe anything too much.
A Prime Example Of How This Plays Out In The Real World
Mike Boyle is one of the world’s leading educators in the arena of performance training, personal fitness training, and athletic rehabilitation.
Mike’s client list reads like the Who’s Who of athletic success across the U.S.A.
He has been involved with the training and rehabilitation with athletes and stars from every major professional sport including the US women’s Olympic teams.
I recently decided that I’m getting off my ass and starting to get my body in shape again and since I’m a nerd I found myself studying Mike’s “Strength Conditioning 3.0” course and what do you know, I’m listening to his pre-frame of the audience and he starts talking about what we’re talking about here – Never Believe Anything Too Much.
And being the nerd I am, I started jotting down the wisdom I was hearing and here’s what he said that I treasured . . .
I’ve become famous for changing my mind when it comes to the most efficient and effective strength conditioning programs and I think I piss a ton of people off because of it. My friend Alwyn Cosgrosve always makes me feel better when he says, "No one should get punished for learning."
The reason we’re changing our mind is because someone is showing us something that’s superior to what we were doing previously.
When someone comes along and says, "This is a better idea," we take it and run with it.
The people I encounter a lot of times say, "Well this is how I do it." I say, "I understand that’s how you do it. What I’m telling you is that this is a better idea." And they usually go, "Well, we do it this way." And I’ve come to realize that whenever I get into this conversation that this is pointless conversation because they don’t want to change and they don’t want to learn.They like what they do and they’re comfortable with what they do.
I look at new stuff and I don’t think, "Well, this is how we do it." I look at it and think, “Are we doing it the best way you can possibly be doing it?”
The changes we make come usually from someone smarter than me coming along and saying, "There’s a better way to do this." People come along and give you little tidbits of stuff and say in a respectful manner, "This is better than what you’re using right now." The end product of listening to them is coming to the conclusion that this is a better way. We need to change this now as opposed to trying to find a defense for what we’re doing and it’s amazing how many people spend so much time trying to defend , "Well, this is how we do it."
You can be certain there is no "This is how we do it" in any of our stuff. Everything we’re doing is evolving towards what we hope becomes the best way to do it. Will there ever be a "Best Way"? Probably not. But if you don’t keep looking then you become like anyone else who’s going backwards.
"I’m not young enough to know everything."
It’s amazing. I’m in my 50’s and it seems like most of the people you run into who know everything are usually between the age of 19-24. I feel like saying something to these kids like, "Oh, how cute, you’ve read your first book. That’s cool. Now you understand everything about strength conditioning."
Smart people recognize wisdom but for the majority, wisdom totally goes over their head if they’re in the second grade and they think they’re a doctor. That’s how a lot of people are in strength and conditioning.
The Old Man, The Boy and The Donkey
An old man, a boy and a donkey were going to town. The boy rode and the old man walked. As they went along people remarked that it was a shame that the old man was walking. The man and the boy thought maybe the critics were right so they changed positions.
Later they passed more people who remarked "What a shame he makes the little boy walk." So they both walked.
The next group they passed remarked how foolish they were to walk when they had a donkey. So they both rode the donkey.
The fourth group from PETA were upset about the overloaded donkey. So they decided to carry the donkey. As they crossed the river, they lost their grip and dropped the donkey to it’s death.
Moral of the story: If you try to please everyone you may as well kiss your ass goodbye.
When you teach or learn new ideas you’re never gonna make everyone happy.
When you change your mind you’re gonna piss people off.
It’s amazing how many people will tell me at a seminar, "But you said last year . . ." And I’m like, "Yeah, that was last year. I’ve had 365 days to get smarter and now you’re mad at me because I did that." Every seminar I get one of two people pissed off because they’ve got to go back and change their programs.
I tell them, "Yeah, that’s a really good thing."
I’ve gone to seminars and figured something new out and gone back home and rewrote the entire program to make sure it included what I’d just discovered.
You need to have the ability to see that someone is doing something better than you are right now and you need to put yourself in a situation where you can move forward.
I’m not trying to keep everyone happy.
I want to keep people informed. I want people to know what I think right now based on what I’ve read, people I’ve talked with and seminars I’ve gone to, this is what I think, today.
This is series and I’m shooting myself in the foot in reference to sales of the previous versions but this isn’t about manipulating information so that I can keep a prodcut alive so that I selling it.
The newest version is about focusing on what the differences are , not the similarities. The fundamentals don’t change. The big key is wanting to learn and to being willing to experiment.
I always joke that I have some of the best paid lab rats in the world. I get people who are getting paid millions of dollars a year to participate in my experiments with me.
What you’re seeing here is brilliant on three levels . . .
First, without ever having been exposed to Eben and Wyatt’s seminar he’s met with the universal truth that the most flexible person always wins because they never believe in anything too much.
Second, he’s seeking synthesis in his approach to his profession – seeking the way to incorporate the new seeking the highest and best outcome knowing that progress, not perfection, is the goal.
Third, he’s addressing this at the very beginning of the seminar he’s hosting just as Eben did for his Advanced Learning and Teaching course. Both of these men are pre-framing the audience. Pre-framing is where you address objections you know people are going to have right off the bat and helping people see that holding those beliefs, at least for the duration of this presentation, is not in their best interest. Go here to see Tony Robbins do this at the Yoda Jedi Master level.
A couple of questions to ask yourself . . .
What’s one belief that I am holding onto for dear life for fear of being wrong and losing face in the eyes of the people I want approval from most? Do these people truly love me, believe in my vision for a better future and want me to be fulfilled, or are they completely concerned with themselves and don’t want me to change because if I change, the ways they use to manipulate me now will stop working?
If you stubbornly cling to a paradigm that isn’t serving you at the highest possible level, you can kiss your peace of mind and forward evolution goodbye.
Life is a wave of change. You either sail on top of it riding on the edge of death through the terrifying storms as well as coasting along on the calm merrily, merrily . . . or you let the storm capsize your soul and the boredom of the calm sink you slowly from the inside out. The choice is yours.
Now if you have any questions or want to share with me the one belief you’re going to open your mind to and seek synthesis with, feel free to share either with me in the comments below, my email address or the orange private “Feedback” tab you see on the right side of the screen here.
Wishing you peace, prosperity and heroism in your life,
Lewis LaLanne a.k.a. Note Taking Nerd #2 a.k.a. L.L. Cool Nerd
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